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Preventing child abuse

Preventing child abuse

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The allegations of violations of children force a necessary debate as a society: what do we need to do to protect the children if the institutions, such as the family, who are supposedly to protect them, do not work?

There are five cases of pregnant girls after violations.The most disturbing thing is that the defendants turn out to be biological and stepfather parents.What can those who believe that another society be possible?First, to deconstruct the macho power that sustains the mental structure that another person can own others, of the bodies of it and can "use and abuse" of those bodies.This can lead a lifetime, because it is a way of understanding the world differently.

Margarita Rehnfeldt, coordinator of the Education Area of Sexuality, of the Base Educational and Community Support Organization (Scholarship) published a "Manual for the Prevention of Sexual Abuse of Children", aimed at educators and that raise some advicefundamental for teachers and parents.The author allows us to share the following advice:

1-Do you teach them that their bodies belong to them and nobody has the right to touch them:

Girls and boys own their bodies, and even when they are taught to obey adults, they have to know that when someone wants to touch or touches them, and that bothers them or makes them feel uncomfortable, they have the right toSay that no, even when the one who touches them is a relative or another close person.

Cartel frente al Congreso Nacional. Foto: Paraguay.com

2-Do you think there are different forms of contact:

The main idea is to help children to understand that there are a variety of forms of contacts and that not everyone has to be tolerated or accepted.For example, we can talk to them about appropriate contacts such as affectionate hugs, kisses on the cheek, holding hands, etc., which makes them feel good, loved and protected.Inappropriate contacts such as blows, punctures and any other way of touching that makes them feel uncomfortable, that confuses them or scares them.To better understand the latter, we can talk with the children about how they would feel and what their reactions would be if someone touched their intimate parts, or if they were asked to do something in secret.

3-Children should be guided by their intuition.

At this point they must reinforce them to believe in their own reactions and feelings.If they feel that something is wrong or inappropriate in a given situation, they are probably right and should tell or ask someone of trust if they are not sure of what happened.It is very important to teach them to be guided by their intuition, so that they can identify some behavior that can become sexual abuse.

4-We must talk to girls and boys about the assertive ways of acting in a situation of abuse.

The manual, aimed at teachers of basic school education, gives some tools to work in class with teachers.One of the tools is a story entitled "It is not your fault" and that tells the story of an abuse:

It's not your fault

Cómo prevenir el abuso infantil

Judith A. Jance

-Guess what?- The mother said when Teresa entered the kitchen.

-Ata Ana and Uncle José will come today to visit a few days with us.

Teresa looked at her coffee cup and suddenly felt ill.

"I'm not hungry," he said, and pushed the cup.His mother looked at him well and asked:

-What does my daughter happen to you, something hurts?

Teresa lowered her head and said:

-I don't endure Uncle José -

-But, why my daughter?If he loves you a lot, he always brings you gifts, your uncle is so good.

"I don't care," Teresa said.- With Aunt Ana gives pleasure, but with him not -.

-Ay this Teresa - said her mother, while Teresa went to her piece to change clothes to go to school.

-And, hopefully he is truly ill, so he would be in the hospital and I will not have to see Uncle José while he is at home - he thought, while he was wearing.

-Prorate, you're going to be late for school!Said his mother.

During class, Teresa couldn't stop thinking about her uncle José.She remembered what had happened on the past holidays when she went to the house of aunt Ana.

-I can bathe alone uncle, I left outside - Teresa said.

But her uncle did not come out, she took her clothes and touched the parts where she did not want her to touch her, in a way that Teresa knew it was wrong.And so every time she thought about that, she got all red as shame.Uncle José told her that she was too pretty and that she couldn't stop.

-Teresa, I attended the class - said her teacher, Miss Nancy.

Suddenly Teresa began to tear.She wanted to cry but she stopped, because if she cried she had to tell the teacher what had happened and her uncle José de her had told her not to tell anyone.He had told her that her mother and her aunt Ana of her were going to get angry with him if she told what happened.

Since that day Teresa felt bad, alone and very afraid because she thought everything was because of her.

After Recreo Teresa felt ill and her teacher told her that she could go just her house.She left even though she didn't want to leave.She wanted to escape, go far but she didn't know where to go.To top it up, her mother was not at home.She was at her work.

When he entered his house, he smelled the smell of his uncle José.

-Day ... already arrived if Uncle José.Why what the micro did not collide and Mba´e died thought of Teresa.Aunt Ana saw him and said:

-Ho Teresa, how are you?

"I'm fine," she said slowly.

Uncle José came behind Aunt Ana and brought a gift in his hand.

He said:

-Teresita, every time we see you you are more beautiful, and with this gift you will see you even more.

When he heard that if he felt even more bad.She grabbed the gift and ran to her piece, struck the door and opened the gift.It was a nice pink dress with flying.She hated that dress because if she got, she was going to be prettier, and she wanted to be ugly.Then she grabbed the dress, wrinkled it and threw it in a corner.

At that moment someone hit the door.Teresa looked for the lock and saw that she was her uncle José de her and that she was going to enter her piece.

She was scared too big and thought she had to escape, that she couldn't stay there.She looked everywhere and saw the window, opened it and jumped into the patio and escaped behind the house.

He looked everywhere to see if someone followed her, and ran to school again.Along the way, she found her teacher.She told him:

-Teresite, what's wrong with you? Why did you come again if you are sick?-I couldn't talk, she only trembled.The teacher took her to school and closed the class door.

At the beginning Teresa began to cry.After a while she just could tell the teacher something.She then told him what had happened on the holidays past in her house José de her.

The teacher listened to her in silence and when she finished telling what Uncle José had done with her, she dried her tears and hugged her.

"You checked very well by telling me this," he said.Right now I'm going to send your mother.

Tersita scared and almost shouted:

-No Please.Uncle José told me not to tell anyone.He said that Mom and Aunt Ana was going to get angry with me, that it was my fault what happened.

The teacher shook her head and said:

-No my daughter, it's not your fault.Listen to me.It was never your fault.It is your uncle José and no one else.

-But I don't want to cause you problems, "said Teresa.

-Querida, you did very well to tell me everything.Only in this way your uncle José will not be able to do any other girl.

The teacher sent her mother for a baby.She came quickly.

He arrived very worried and said:

-What is my daughter, are you sick?

Then, the teacher told her story to her mother.Teresa was sitting next to her mother with great fear of looking at her face.Teresa saw that her mother was very angry, she was sure that her uncle's uncle was right.Her mother was angry with her and was going to punish her.

Then his mother looked at him and said:

-What happened is not your fault Teresa.You are a very brave girl by telling us everything that happened.I am so proud of you.But now I have to talk to Aunt Ana and Uncle José.

His mother told the teacher:

-Can Teresa stay a little while with you?-.

The teacher smiled and said:

-Of course.All the time you want.

The mother knelt next to Teresa and said:

-It's a pity that this has happened, but don't worry my daughter, you're going to stay with the teacher.I'm going home to tell Uncle José and Aunt Ana to go to her house right now.Then I'm going to look for you.I love you very much.Everything is going to go very well.You'll see.

Then Teresa hugged her mother strong.It had been that she was not her to blame.Knowing that her mother believed him and she was on her side made her feel much better.

Margarita Rehnfeldt participó de una acción para pedir protección para los niños y las niñas. Foto: Paraguay.com

Where to report cases of abuse

Phonoayuda

The telephone number 147 is a free line for the whole country, which anyone can call to make a complaint of abuse and all kinds of violence towards girls, boys and adolescents.

Codeni and other instances

Complaints can also be made by resorting to the municipal councils of Children and Adolescents (Codeni), the prosecutors of children and adolescence, as well as the police stations.The Codeni work in most municipalities throughout the country.

Specialized care division to children, adolescents and women victims of violence. This service began at the end of 2008 with the creation of an inter -institutional committee that includes the Ministry of Interior, the Ministry of Public Health and Social Welfare, the Secretariatof the woman of the Republic of Paraguay and the National Secretariat of Children and Adolescents with the objective of articulating the strategy of action against domestic violence.

Specialized Care Division offices:

7.A Metropolitan Police Station.

Tel.: (021) 228518

Avda. Eusebio Ayala c/ Morquio, Asunción

Police Station 6.a Metropolitan

Tel.: (021) 204876

Avda. Mariscal López C/ Kubitschek, Asunción

(Next to the Polyclinic Rigoberto Caballero)

Police Station 15.A Metropolitana

Tel.: (021) 557500

Avda. Fernando de la Mora C/ Avda. De la Victoria, Asunción

Human Rights Directorate-Ministry of Interior

Tel.: (021) 4152024 and (021) 4152027

Manduvirá almost Chile, Asunción

In ñemby: 7.a police station

Tel.: (021) 960302

National Independence 671 C/ La Franconi

In Encarnación: Primary Care Commission for Women, Girls, Children and Adolescents

Tel.: (071) 205043

Lomas Valentinas and Father José Kreusser

In Villarrica: Police Station 4.A

Tel.: (0541) 42580

Founders of the South E/ YBATÉ

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