Apparently clothing has become an important ally. In fact, when going out with someone we look closely at their clothing and perhaps we would doubt an invitation in which the other dressed extravagantly or ridiculously.
But just as it is important in everyday life, it can also become so in moments of intimacy, where seduction and eroticism play a key role.
Given this, some may wonder: And what does it matter what you wear if it will only last a couple of minutes? Under this thought, a large number of people do not invest in sexy lingerie. However, although it is up to each person, underwear can also be stimulating and of great help on an intimate level.
Paulina Valenzuela, clinical psychologist and expert in couples therapy maintains that "the appropriate form of seduction at the time of sexual encounter is a kind of game that contemplates what you show, what you hide and what you guess the other has, without forgetting which is at that moment when imagination and fantasy play a key role in your sexual encounter”.
Therefore, doing the opposite of what the rule dictates is more exciting, since if you get together in a public place with your boyfriend and comment that you are not wearing underwear, it may turn out to be an excellent method to stimulate sexual desire in him. In the same way, staying with certain clothes in the intimate encounter results in a whole strategy that you must take into account and put to the test, according to the women's magazine S Moda.
However, the idea of leaving something on in private does not necessarily obey an intention with exciting overtones, since in some women it can be due to low self-esteem, something that was revealed by a study carried out in 2012 by the newspaper British The Telegraph, which showed that 48% of women prefer to remain with a garment during sexual intercourse and, within this group, 54% did so because that generated greater confidence at the time of the act itself.
Similarly, the research revealed that 61% of the women interviewed preferred to make love with the lights off and a high percentage refused to take off their bra when they had sex.
It is in this context that Paulina Valenzuela affirms that "there are many women who flatly refuse to wear sensual lingerie in their encounters and when asked why such a denial is due, they declare that they do not feel comfortable or simply imagine that they adopt a character that does not represent them at all”.
However, experts in the area maintain that the idea is to act a little, to imagine yourself in a different place where personification is what should prevail. So if you are a shy person, you should keep in mind that this type of initiative is the same as singing in karaoke, at first you may be a little embarrassed, but once you launch yourself you think you are a pop star.
The star garments of excitement are the light pieces, with a varied style of lingerie. Although everyone has their favorite, and some lean towards classic garments, if you know how to combine them perfectly you will achieve a sensual look.
According to the expert in couple relationships, "the most important thing is that everything you want to take to the end is light and does not cover erogenous or determining zones at the time of the meeting, where lightness, daring stockings and high stilettos can be the key pieces
As for shoes, the Spanish magazine published that these are the perfect fetish of many. In relation to footwear, the French writer Catherine Millet, explains in her book La vida sexual de Catherine M. (Anagrama), how in one of the orgies she usually attended, she found the image of a girl who was completely naked she kept her stiletto boots on.
And what about men?
It is much easier for them to dress for a sexual encounter. However, the only element that they should try not to put on at the time of the match itself are socks, something that was demonstrated in a survey carried out by the University of Groningen in the Netherlands, by Gert Holstege, who found that these are "passion killers" for many. part of the females.
Accessories are another point at which we must stop, and leaving out erotic toys, there are items that merge perfectly with clothing, including bandages, handcuffs or nipple covers that come to light up New Year's nights.
better not to use
The Spanish magazine S Moda gave a guideline of what is recommended to leave aside on a night of passion.
Panties: these intimate garments are the best antidote to eroticism for them, so opting for a flesh-colored one with a crooked seam and rises above the navel is sexy for the street, but if we want to set the mood in private, we It is better to dare for ones with a silicone garter that hold on their own and make you look sensual.
Food-patterned undergarments: It's okay to wear food-patterned underwear as part of a joke, but such designs can take the heat out of the encounter.
Flesh-toned lingerie: apparently nude is not the best bet for a night of passion, unless the protagonist has dark skin. In the same way, it must be made clear that you should not only resort to black or red to light the flame, but you have to try provocative tones that look good on you and make you look sensual at all times.
On the other hand it is suggested that they avoid the following products
Very tight or very loose underwear: Apparently a large number of men do not know their underwear size, and this is evident since most males sin by wearing wide boxers that look like skirts, while others opt for tiny underpants that reveal a large part of its attributes. Something that for them is not sensual at all.
Bold underpants: Here the medium refers to those who have an elephant trunk or a Pinocchio nose. While they're perfect for joking around, they're not the best bet if you want to turn your partner on.
Thong: Although the thong is a garment of some women, everyone agrees that the man for nothing in the world should use them, and even less opt for thongs with animal prints or other prints that more than stimulate the partner, they will only get more of a laugh.
